My husband and I were away for the weekend. I come back to Ben and Rosie in the dark, in a storm. I fill haynets, sort stables, feed. I prepare the morning’s haynets and feed. Emerging from the shed I see that Ben has taken the haynet at the edge of the yard, so that Rosie has to wait outside. This is the haynet I push Ben off to let Rosie on. Ben looks at me and slowly shifts his hindquarters towards Rosie, pushing her further back. A challenge! I do not want that challenge in the dark, the wind and the rain. But I know I must answer it. I push Ben off the haynet, he saunters away and looks for a way to come back. My body position and movement keep him away until he finally relaxes and takes another haynet. Rosie meanwhile has quietly approached the haynet and eats.
Yes, welcome back. Any time I need to re-connect with Ben, it is never through touchy-feely stuff like lovely rubs, scratches and such. It is always through a challenge.