I have thoughts in my head about all kinds of things I could do, or should do with Ben. They range from being part of a riding club, taking lessons, trying out this or that technique or idea through to reading some of the many books I like to acquire.

All the time I wish for more time, better weather, more energy, more time and even more time.

I need none of these. And I clutter my mind wishing for them.

What I need is what I have: a cob and a pony waiting for me in the paddock. Or maybe not waiting for me: just there. When I have time, they are glad to see me. When I don’t, they don’t seem to complain. They do not need technique, activities, teaching or ideas. They need me when I can come, to be present with an uncluttered mind, there for them. And we can take it from there.



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10 responses to “Shedding

  1. Sometimes we can get so caught up in the clutter of all we think we should do, we forget to appreciate what we can. Good post.

  2. Brilliant insight! I can get so caught up in all I “need to do” or “need to get” so I “do something.”

    Periodically I have to stop and remind myself that none of that is actually true – for me, the Wendell Berry poem “Wild Geese” says it all – the last line:

    what we need is here.

    Thanks, Maire. A perfect post for this crazy holiday season!

  3. That is a beautiful post!
    I remember just last winter, how stressed out I would get when the snow would prevent me from getting to the barn to ride. In my mind, I HAD to ride because I thought Griffin needed exercise to stay limber. He needed to stay limber so we could enjoy 1 ½ – 2 hour long trail rides during the summer months. He needed to stay in shape.

    Now, following this new path I am on – I find that stuff is no longer important. What you said in your last paragraph said it best. They may be waiting for you…or maybe not….but they will be there when you can see them and they are glad to see you.

    Technique, activites, and teaching are not necessary….just an open mind and a desire to have a good relationship.

    That is so beautiful!

    I’m finding that since I’ve let go of all the “goals” I had last winter that I don’t have to feel the pressure of going to “work” my horse who probably didn’t enjoy it anyway. Now I can just go and “be” with him. We can do whatever activity moves us – or not. If I can’t make it out there tomorrow because it’s snowing – then there’s always another day. I don’t have to worry. I can’t put into words just how liberating that feeling is!

  4. The ‘uncluttered mind’ is the key. One approaches with a mind as clear as possible. After that a horse has a remarkable ability to displace the remaining junk.

    • White Horse Pilgrim, I do agree with you that horses can get rid of what remains so very well. And they also want, and I think deserve, us to approach them with an uncluttered mind – or as near as we can get to it.