I am sitting in our enlarged, brighter kitchen. The french doors are open and the sun shines on the peagravel laid outside on what will be a patio. Spring is here. The house is silent and I can hear the birds. Alice sleeps on a cushion nearby. Ben and Rosie are still at the lake, looking trimmer now as they have eaten most of what’s there. They come home on Tuesday evening. Next week is a two day working week for me so I will have every hour of the school day of Wednesday, Thursday and Friday to be with them. I can’t wait.
Doing my grocery shop this morning I found myself thinking of all the things I would like to do with them. Here they are ‘in no particular order’ as they say on the x factor:
- Keep weight off (all of us).
- Have fun.
- Give Rosie more time – she is loving clicker work so develop that into some tricks.
- Find a way to become irresistible to Ben – I am hoping that the use of the clicker will help me here. He is well able to let me know if that is not what he wants.
- Use music in my pea gravel picadero – I sense some Bach for Ben, or Telleman, maybe some clarinet or oboe, something with a rhythm and gravity. Rosie is possibly a Mozart kind of pony.
- Use ideas from Linda Tellington’s playground of higher learning in the picadero.
- Explore ways to address Ben’s trauma memories – possibly mouth t touches, and ride the one route that he does not like with someone on the ground, leading.
- Change my attitude towards Ben from dominance thinking to offering direction and mutual leadership.
- Trust my instincts.
- Be more silent around them.
- Look smart when we ride out – which really means try and be mud free.
- Do something with them every day, just chilling out with them is good.
- Have fun.